The Marriage Concept

Marriage is the concept drilled at such an early age that one forgets the joys and pleasures that life has to offer. I once used to wonder how relationships worked thinking they were something complicated, but I think there rather simple.

Though I could go onto the analogies of my view points of relationships - I will not even go there - I will address the simplicity of the nature of relationships especially for me.

I came from a university that drilled marriage as the "main concept". This concept drilled many students to be stressed, and worried thinking that many would never find there soul mate - if their soul mate even existed on that campus. Personally, I didn't worry nor did I stress about it, because I knew that there are more important things to worry about than placing the marriage at the top of the list! Some may say that I am talking like a liberal Mormon - there may be some truth to that notion. However, I find myself to be a person that is carefree and just doing the good thing.

Have you ever counted the amount of times that you have helped someone, or given a present because you wanted to do it. I don't think I could count the amount of times that I have done something nice for some, or even think about doing something nice for someone; because it just something comes natural for me. Personally, I find it to be a pet peeve when a woman thinks that when I send a gift or do something nice that there has to be strings attached. I find that dating on that campus there are these idealistic notions that when someone does something nice that it means that they want marriage! Balogne! I'd say that is a bunch of hogwash!

Think about it! It is hogwash, because there are some people out there that just want to make your day special, or do something nice because it is part of their nature. Nothing has to come with strings attached only to have the notions that being nice is just a "concept."

At the end of the road, marriage is brought up with the concepts of being "nice" because in the end marriage alters our perceptions in either bad or good. It is shaped as life goes on, and as their spouse changes. As that spouses changes, whether that be for the bad or the good, some people aren't ready for those changes causing disharmony within the marriage.

Thus, the "marriage concept" isn't a "concept" it is THE "concept" causing the materialization of the "niceness concept" that got together towards people in the first place. What I am getting around her is that being nice shouldn't have to come with some type of reward, because being nice is a display of REAL LOVE. Real love is true sacrifice, but very few would like to sacrifice in this world today.